In my case, when I try to change some undesired behavior, mental exercise provides a temporary solution but usually no sustainable results.
The good news is however that undesired behavior (ultimately) always translates into some kind of physical discomfort. Growing an ongoing awareness of these (small or large) discomforts in a compassionate manner somehow activates behavioral change in a healthy and sustainable way. Main reason being that physical discomforts are easier to spot, allow a more objective analysis and more difficult to hide or disregard than mental discomforts.
One of things I’m still struggling with is that I’m ‘preaching’ concepts like: transparency, openness, vulnerability, authenticity, natural purpose, sustainability etc. whilst I’m not fully there myself… So when I speak to others about this I also speak to myself!
Somehow that doesn’t feel right. My temporary solution is to be open about the fact that I’m not there yet. Hence this small post about the process I’m still going through!
Training the mind is quite a challenge. The picture below (I took in a Tibetan monastery 2 years ago) depicts a well known buddhist tale about the meditator (you and me), the elephant (representing our ‘mind’) and the monkey (representing ‘distraction’).
… without knowing when you’ll be able to get new ones. That is something that I have often tried to avoid. I like to keep my old ones until I’m sure the new ones fit perfectly. Specially when it concerns an area where I have seen others getting into trouble because they didn’t.
But this time it seems I really have to let go before I know where I will land. For a while I have tried to follow my trusted method as I’m migrating to a next phase in my ‘professional’ live but somehow it does not work anymore. Not being able of letting go actually prevents me from discovering what is next.
Creative, Rational and Useless
Whilst gradually moving the organizations I’m involved with towards ‘self management’ (to liberate their full natural potential) I encountered a number of personal issues. These may be worth sharing as my success / failure as a (former) director to understand and cope with these issues greatly influenced the pace and success of the transition of the organization as a whole.
Testing a new destination for transformation trails in August. Some parts of the Pyrenees are as wild and remote as Scotland but not so wet and… less midges. It takes a 2 hours flight to Toulouse (FR) and a 2 hours drive to the starting point in Les Granges d’Astau. Followed by a healthy walk up the mountain to our base camp, le Refuge du lac d’Oo.
Basic program set up remains the same: Continue reading
As you probably know by now, my aim is to help people find and live their natural purpose in life. I recently read Blue Zones, a scientific study by Dan Buettner & National Geographic that supports my intuitive theorie on the importance of knowing and living your personal purpose. This study concludes that having a clear sense of purpose is one of the 9 differentiating lifestyle habits that make that people in these blue zones live a longer, happier and healthier life (past age 100!). Continue reading
Just piloted a transformation trail on Rum with a few willing guinea pigs. Result was a powerful mix of: wonderful rough nature, beautiful hikes, few people, lots of sun (exceptional) and lots of rain (very common), strong wind (also very common), wet feet, almost no phone/internet coverage, yoga sessions on pristine beaches and surfing close to comfort zones.
Having grown various start ups into large organizations I always wondered about the loss of energy and dynamics as we grew. I have therefor tested all kind of organizational structures in an attempt to maintain the energy that is so readily available in the beginning. My conclusion is that the only sustainable solution is to organize yourself in such a manner that every individual is intrinsically connected to the purpose of the organization but is at the same time completely free to act as he or she feels right within his or her area of responsibility. Continue reading
I’m not a cook. Nor is cooking my passion. Making a wide range of quite tasty and good looking dishes just based on whatever happens to be around is however relatively easy for me. And I do have a passion for preparing a meal and a table for others. My aim is to create an atmosphere that triggers people to share live stories and laughters and to listen to each other compassionately. Moments that people will remember. I gather ideas around this in my red indian made scrap book on the picture just below.
Preparing for try out transformation trail in north east Scotland (either Knoydart or Rum), one of the most remote areas of Scotland. It’s also known to be either very cold or completely infested by midges (mini mosquito’s). Only May and September seem to be suited for our purpose, especially now that sleeping in the open air is part of the experience. Continue reading