I am of course aware that my words have an effect on others around me. That is one of the reasons why I’m so interested ‘non violent communications‘. Until recently I have however never fully realised how large and direct the contagious effects of my emotions, thoughts and intentions (both positive and negative) on others are. I believe this to be true not only when ‘expressed’ but also when ‘hidden’.
The ripple effect on their interaction with others also makes me more responsible for our collective behaviour than I thought. The good news is however that if my mood is enriching for my environment, the same ripple effect applies. That means that the ‘impact’ of paying attention to positive radiation from moment to moment is already quite material. And more consequential than many of the other things I do.
Its 2018 and I am almost 58. Life expectancy has increased significantly over the past decades. I have been given the potentiality of 20 extra years. Not at the end of my life, but now, between 50 and 70, before I get really ‘old’ ;o).
I feel, as Marie Catherine Bateson puts it, that I have been given 20 years to finally do things right. With all the knowledge, experience and wisdom that I have (hopefully) acquired up to now and without the short term pressure that has also driven my life before 50. These 20 years did not exist before! It’s new territory, a new adventure and an opportunity to finally focus on all that contributes to a better future for all and everything. I hope I will use them well…
Early morning sun. La Pieja, Opi, Abruzzo
On August 6, 2017, I wrote that I thought that I had reached the bottom of my next U again. That still seems to be true in terms of the underlying theme and intent (connectedness). I have since however experienced that the ‘how’ side was still very much off and not very helpfull.
Now, almost one year later.., I realise that I although I was aiming to ‘trust the process’, ‘let go’ and ‘surrender’ that I was still trying to secure the future by ‘planning ahead’. Only after bumping my nose a couple more times I think I now have reached a certain level of integration of ‘acceptance’ (again with many thanks to ao David Hawkins).
When I look at all the great concepts that are gradually becoming more mainstream in organisations (as brought by Laloux, Fox, Hougaard, Raworth… who stay mostly on the ‘organisation side’) it feels as if the gap with what is needed for a more sustainable and integrated version of our lives is closing.
Most is however brought and consumed as better or more subtle ways to keep on doing the same thing. And as long as we stay busy realising pre-conceived ideas, we remain disconnected from the reality at any one moment and nothing will really change. Something more may be needed.
Introvercy seems to clarify more of my behaviour than I thought…
Quiet confirms it’s reduced impact when I stay close to my natural energy and
explains how embarking on the QOL adventure was putting me in the center without having to be social to get there! ;o)
For abbreviated version see Susan Cain talk.
Cross Circle (DGVE February 2018)
It seems the only way is to go there yourself, possibly causing a ripple, but being OK with it if that doesn’t happen.
From now on my private coaching sessions will be free of any charge. Main reason is that it feels better (for me) this way. You will still make an investment in presence and time but this feels different and allows me to be a ‘freer’ listener and sparring partner.
This doesn’t necessarily make it easier for you as we are used to agree on a price in Euro’s before engaging in something. Not doing so forces us to think more deeply about the exchange we are entering into without the comfort of a upfront settlement through payment. Together we’ll find a way.