Tensions as fuel

I used to avoid tensions as best I could. Either by ignoring them, by hiding or by trying to make them disappear as quickly as possible. Hoping for peace and harmony. Problem is that most tensions do not just disappear and the harmony is therefore only superficial. Ultimately they are bound to show themselves in some way.

On my long journey I did a number of things to learn to embrace tensions. Even to the extent of following a course to become a certified Mediator, trained at resolving conflicts efficiently. I now start to realize that tensions can also form an opportunity for growth. If properly addressed they will contribute to deeper levels of connection and consequently of energy.

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Use your body (1)

In my case, when I try to change some undesired behavior, mental exercise provides a temporary solution but usually no sustainable results.

The good news is however that undesired behavior (ultimately) always translates into some kind of physical discomfort. Growing an ongoing awareness of these (small or large) discomforts in a compassionate manner somehow activates behavioral change in a healthy and sustainable way. Main reason being that physical discomforts are easier to spot, allow a more objective analysis and more difficult to hide or disregard than mental discomforts.

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